Imagine who you’d be if you loved yourself as much as you love others.
My mother told me every day how precious dear and worthy I was when I was a little girl. At the same time I watched her criticize herself, put everyone else’s needs ahead of hers and deny her brilliance and value to this world. She wanted the best for me, but she taught me the worst.
Overwhelmed, Depleted, Self-deprecating & EXHAUSTED! That’s what I see many of my most beloved empathic women struggle with.
It’s one thing to build up better psychic filters and shields, it’s another to shift a life long habit of giving and giving and giving to the point of running on empty 23/7
I believe there are a few reasons we do this…
- Giving is intoxicating. It feels good when others feel good.
- We’re either exhaling or inhaling. When we’re focused on giving we don’t feel negativity as intensely. (The problem is this isn’t 100% effective because we often still pick stuff up even when we aren’t aware of it.)
- We’ve been conditioned to care, please and serve from a very early age. Self worth and value is often deeply tied into how much we give.
- We struggle to feel worthy of reciprocity. We’re so aware of all the suffering on this planet that thriving seems unfair.
The problem with living on fumes and habitually overextending ourselves is that…
- This actually prevents us from sharing our gifts to their full potential.
- We eventually get really sick and tired. We burn out AND we react to life instead of responding with resilience and grace.
- We model these patterns of imbalance for all the wee empathic souls around us. Humans learn by example. So even if we tell our children and charges they are worthy, they’ll repeat our behavior as long as we’re demonstrating self deprecation.
As I’m sure you’ve heard before you’ve got to put your own oxygen mask on first to insure you can effectively save other people with out passing out at the most crucial moment.
I’m gonna flip this on its head…
- What if… giving at the expense of your own wellbeing and self sacrifice to the point of emptiness is actually harmful to those you wish to serve?
- What if… even though these selfless intentions seem virtuous, in reality they’re misguided dysfunctional legacies that ultimately reinforce the polar opposite of our stated desire?
- What if… cultivating self care, loving ourselves and actually making our own needs a priority is an essential key to healing the planet?
- What if… we’re more productive, more effective and achieve our goals far more swiftly when we take time to recharge & renew on a regular basis?
- What if… this old model of Self Sacrifice has become obsolete and we must adapt or perish?
What small action or incremental shift will you make in the next 24 hours to recharge your batteries?
Can you take even 5 minutes to breathe outside (or while hiding in the bathroom from your kids)?
What obligation or request can you decline or delegate?
What one thing will you do?
And here’s the thing, if you can’t do it for yourself then please do it for the children and young adults who are watching you.
Think about all these dear ones. Do you want to fast forward in 10-20 years to see them bleeding out the same way you do? Of course you don’t. Ironically, it’s easy to see how lethal these behaviors are for anyone other than ourselves.
SO change for them. Eventually you’ll catch up and start doing this for yourself too. However for the time being, please join me to break this cycle. The buck’s got to stop somewhere. How about we let it be us?
At this point you may be thinking SURE Jen! But how the F am I going to do that?!?
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